INTERVIEW: Breakup Songs and Love Songs with Lindsey Tulkoff

Lindsey Tulkoff is a hard rocking drummer that lends her talents to Ballbreakers (all female AC/DC tribute band), Pretty Vacant (Sex Pistols tribute band) and Sash the Bash.  One thing I noticed about each of these bands was that at the core of the music is a sense of excitement and rebellion as the music races along. Despite this raging storm of music that swirls around Lindsey at her shows she sits calm and resolute behind her drum kit often with a knowing smirk on her face.  Chatting with LIndsey about Valentine’s Day and her thoughts on music for the holiday I discovered that that knowing smirk extends beyond the stage.

As a break up song, Artic Monkeys “505,” is easy to identify with. In previous relationships, I tend to cling on the moments of infatuation in the beginning. Also, I value my autonomy and it’s challenging for me to compromise to begin with, let alone compromising for someone who isn’t willing to try or who is too picky. Getting into relationship mode has always been difficult…likewise with exiting relationship mode. I will give my partner the world…well, my world anyway. In previous relationships, I felt no matter what I did… I was wrong or what I did wasn’t good enough. I get told what I do is “too much.”

“Silly Love Songs” is my favorite love song. I want to love someone, be cheesy, and share my life. I don’t need anyone, but I would love to share my life with someone. Also, I love Paul McCartney and this is his response to critics accusing him of writing “silly love songs.” Even today, people act too cool for love and treat the feelings of others as if they’re disposable. I would like to love someone if they’d accept me…haven’t found that out yet.

Music transcends the human psyche, experience, and subconscious. While a romance may be heating up or dwindling down, music plays a subconscious role. I don’t necessarily seek out music to comfort me. Inevitably, I do though. I think when things are going well, music can demonstrate the potential and beauty of love. At the same token during a break up, it can provide a solace.

A great song for Valentine’s day is Sash the Bash’s “Rock n Roll Orgy” – you may laugh; however, the song speaks of spontaneity in relation to carnal passion. I’m quite spontaneous when in a relationship, and I like to keep my partner guessing/catching them off guard. I think you have to continually and mutually seek to reinvent a relationship on all levels: physical, emotional, and mental.

I’ve never had a proper Valentine’s Date. I’ve never been asked out even when in a relationship. I even tried planning a date and was stood up. Yea, that sucked. When I’ve been in a relationship, partners have been busy. I travel for work and have been out of town…perhaps convenient to them. I wouldn’t mind having a real Valentine’s date and celebrating all of it in its cheesiness… Actually, I don’t really think it is cheesy. Celebrating a day with your partner is actually quite meaningful I would think. I’m a sucker for old romance in an age where love is disposable I guess.

Only a hipster douche bag would stand up a lady on Valentine’s Day.

When she isn’t rocking out on stage she is a self described lake rat and damn serious about her health and wellness goals.  You can keep up with her music, lake adventures and wellness journey on Instagram at @HardRockingHobbit.

If you haven’t shared you favorite love song and favorite break up song we would love to hear from you.  On Valentine’s Day I will pick my favorites from the submissions and give away t-shirts, stickers and tickets to an upcoming show.

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